Are Relationships Meant to Be Forever?

We see celebrities in and out of relationships and we are fascinated with the activity. The news of new romance, lavish weddings and crash and burn splits grace the cover of almost every magazine that faces us at the check-out stand.

But are relationships meant to be forever?

Take the recent split of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony.  In J-Lo’s upcoming Vanity Fair interview she said “Sometimes it doesn’t work—and that’s sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love…”

Should we see relationships as failures when they end?

From a metaphysical perspective our intimate relationships are the number one place that we work on our life lessons, and our life lessons contain the how, why and what of what we are here to do. If we want to be empowered, we may unconsciously manifest a relationship in which we need to fight to be heard, or to be seen.  If we want to value ourselves, we may unconsciously manifest a relationship where cheating or some form of diminishment is involved so that we can get to a place where we stand up for ourselves.


As we move through the years, sometimes one person learns, heals and grows and the other doesn’t; sometimes we both do and end up in different places.  Whatever the path is, sometimes we find ourselves in a completed relationship.  This isn’t a failure, this is spiritual growth.

Denise Richards wrote in her book “The Real Girl Next Door” that the Charlie Sheen we see today is the man she divorced, not the man she married.

People change. If we stay in relationships out of duty or obligation or because of fear of the unknown or fear of what others will say or think or even because of our religious beliefs we are not serving anyone.  We accept less and when we accept less we invalidate the self.

Think about your own relationships. How often do you suppress or repress what you really think, feel and need?  What kind of communication do you have? Do you really have the relationship you desire?  Are you really working on what you signed up to work on in this relationship?

This isn’t a ‘free pass’ to walk away from challenge or the real work that all relationships take.  But at the end of the day, after all is said and done, sometimes what we wanted to learn in a relationship and the way in which we signed up to learn it comes to an end. If change is not possible, to stay means accepting less.

Consciously or unconsciously our relationships offer a place to work on our life lessons.  Relationships help us see more clearly, live more fully and stand up for who we are or who we want to be. Our growth comes when we realize we deserve more from our partnerships than what we are being given.  Our growth comes when we acknowledge that we are stuck and neither person can move forward.  Our growth comes when we consciously look at our relationships, understand what we are working on and we choose to take the steps that will help us heal and become more.

So no, not all relationships are meant to be forever.

Christine Agro, The Metaphysical Feminist is a clairvoyant, an Inspirational Teacher and host of Fully Empowered with Christine Agro on SQR.FM.  For 12 years, Christine has been working with women around the world helping them to see the Spiritual lessons in their lives and to find ways to step into full empowerment.  Find out more about Christine, her work and her courses at www.christineagro.com